Relationships are hard to keep. Friends, family members, boy/girlfriends, wifes, husbands.... Really hard. Specially if a misunderstanding comes between you and the other person, you got hurt. A cold heart is not easy to warm up.
You usually forget these kinda things when it happens inside of the family. Cause you live with them, they are your mom, dad, sister or brother. You have to forgive them and forget the bad days. It's default, it comes with the family bond book :)
But when it comes to boy/girlfriends here comes the problem. Cause you cant except that your darling can do that to you! It cant be your man/woman. Something must be wrong. And if you are not married also thinking about marriage it makes your heart got cold. It's always the same question! "What if?!" "If s/he did that to me, oh my god! i cant even think if we get married" these kinda questions make you always disturbed, annoyed, frustrated. You hurt yourself first and most and than you hurt the other person too.. Because of you got hurt, you treat bad to your boy/girlfriend. You think it'll keep you safe from other unwanted attacks and you'll be cool.
This is the most false move that everybody does. I guess if we can learn to let go things and try to look at the big picture from all the other sides, we can also see that there is no reason to get hurt and no reason to hurt other person. I guess what we call this is ego, coolness, afraid of broking walls of your own castle.
We all live in our own giant castles. We all try to keep enemies out from our castles. We all dont want to get hurt. That is the main, basic reason under all the things.
Sometimes if we accept attacks (if we have to call them that way) we can be happier and see actually that the attack doesnt hurt.
Sometimes a phone call or an email, these days, warms up all the ice incircled your heart.
Life is really short to make a mountain out of a mole hill. Hug your loved ones and walk at the road of life beside them. They need you! It's a though road!
You usually forget these kinda things when it happens inside of the family. Cause you live with them, they are your mom, dad, sister or brother. You have to forgive them and forget the bad days. It's default, it comes with the family bond book :)
But when it comes to boy/girlfriends here comes the problem. Cause you cant except that your darling can do that to you! It cant be your man/woman. Something must be wrong. And if you are not married also thinking about marriage it makes your heart got cold. It's always the same question! "What if?!" "If s/he did that to me, oh my god! i cant even think if we get married" these kinda questions make you always disturbed, annoyed, frustrated. You hurt yourself first and most and than you hurt the other person too.. Because of you got hurt, you treat bad to your boy/girlfriend. You think it'll keep you safe from other unwanted attacks and you'll be cool.
This is the most false move that everybody does. I guess if we can learn to let go things and try to look at the big picture from all the other sides, we can also see that there is no reason to get hurt and no reason to hurt other person. I guess what we call this is ego, coolness, afraid of broking walls of your own castle.
We all live in our own giant castles. We all try to keep enemies out from our castles. We all dont want to get hurt. That is the main, basic reason under all the things.
Sometimes if we accept attacks (if we have to call them that way) we can be happier and see actually that the attack doesnt hurt.
Sometimes a phone call or an email, these days, warms up all the ice incircled your heart.
Life is really short to make a mountain out of a mole hill. Hug your loved ones and walk at the road of life beside them. They need you! It's a though road!
posted by sinemis @ 4:44 PM
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